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Social networking is pissing me off.

I mentioned this to a friend the other morning and his response was “but I have friends that use it to communicate.” My retort was, “I do too, but I try to actually talk to people instead. I’d rather be out doing stuff than posting crap online.”

I know I have gone on this rant before and it is necessary I go on it yet again.

Sadly, I don’t think the problem is solely attributed to sites like facebook. The problem lies within- that is within people. Stupid people.

Users=People=Crazy

Fuck, I can be crazy too. I just don’t advertise it to the whole wide www-world. What happened to having private lives? What happened to the elements of surprise when meeting new people?

At first I thought it was a great idea to share my thoughts and feelings with friends and cyber-friends, but then I realized that just gets messy.

There are those lack of judgment moments when you immediately post something and seconds later you realize the double entendres you just unleashed. Before you can delete or edit you have comments/ texts/calls from overly concerned love ones, gossip queens, nosey neighbors, jealous exes, etc.

And so the downward spiral begins. Who knew your own words had the ability to bite you in the ass so hard. This is how rumors get started, people! Cyberspace has transformed the rumor mill into a ferocious beast.

It reminds me of when I had to read Jonathan’s Swift “A Modest Proposal.” The following day in class (mind you this was in college) about half the students were repulsed by this “cannibalistic” piece and the other half were humored by Swift’s genius satire.  We all read the same thing, yet our interpretations were different. Maybe a “Modest Proposal” is a bit of a stretch in regards of interpretation, but it just goes to show that some people will take the most ridiculous things as the truth.

That’s fine. I’m over sharing any news with you, facebook. My life was fine before you and shall continue to be.

Meanwhile, Generation Z-ers cannot comprehend a world outside the realm of social networking. To be  honest I could care less about the endless, meaningless posts they make.

Now, my question to you: WHAT PARENT, IN THEIR RIGHT MIND, LETS THEIR 12 YEAR OLD HAVE A FACEBOOK?

What is wrong with you people?! I don’t want to read/see DISTURBING posts/photos from your child that should NOT have a page. Have you not seen Dateline’s To Catch a Predator segment? Have you heard of hacking? Yes, there are those adolescents that are smart enough to make things private, but most don’t  think of that- they just want to look cool and find a bf or gf ❤ ❤ ❤ =D

The worst part is there are those parents that give two shits what their kid is doing. This is a general problem that will continue regardless, so, sadly, it is what it is. Meanwhile, the “supportive” parents are equally as bad and visibly encourage their kid to pursue a terrible idea that everyone else knows is (surprise) a TERRIBLE idea! Great job!

The infinite amount of naive and conceited banter (which we all have been guilty of [and some still are]) between this group of tweens & teens just kills me. Naturally, at the ripe age of 14, you would know everything there is to know about life.

Listen up kids, how about you log off your facebook, myspace, twitter, hi5, skype and every other damn “networking” thing you partake in and go out and ACTUALLY do something. You are not accomplishing anything with your obnoxious rants and everyone, but you, realizes that. Stop killing brain cells and read a book (not a Kindle), A BOOK!

Then you have the lovely facebook facades. As in the people that do a dance to make you believe a false reality. For example, you have the bitter breaker-upper that posts endlessly about their “new” boy/girlfriend to make their ex jealous. It seems true in a newsfeed, but really you know that this person is just trying to pour salt in the wound of the ex and he/she isn’t actually dating anyone and is obviously just online 24/7.

My favorite facade has to be the “frien-emies.” I love it when two people that hate each other (more than anyone could ever imagine) post irrelevant, impersonal comments to make everyone else think they have reconciled or, better yet, to piss off a third party. *sigh* Oh, you insane people, you…

Don’t you realize the only people you are fooling are yourselves? Reality will reveal itself in the long run, so go ahead and fabricate your lives as beautifully as you want- it is called cyberspace for a reason.

Unfortunately, social networks will only continue to grow and these situations will multiply like rabbits. Just remember 1) you can’t believe everything you see, 2) some things are better left unsaid and 3) people are stupid (aka nobody is perfect). My advice to you- go out and LIVE for crying out loud.

Farmville is not going out and living- I am talking go meet new people or call your old friends. Go on a freaking walk. Just something that doesn’t entail sitting on your ass and clicking on your mouse. Have you forgotten about the accelerated growth of obesity or the slow death of creativity and innovation? Well, that’s a whole different topic for a another day.

Just think about it.

Even if it pisses you off and you return to playing Papaya Farm after I will have succeeded because I made you THINK.


You’re welcome.

Disclaimer: Only a select few of these are based on firsthand experiences. Many of these are based on unfortunate stories I have heard.


Somewhere among the twisted inter-webs humans (at least Western Civilization) have lost the ability to communicate. You may think, “How So?,” seeing as methods of communication are exponentially growing with the help of networking sites,  chat technology, etc., but the bottom line is we have forgotten the necessity of human interaction (i.e. oral communication).

No, I don’t count Skype or Chatroulette as “human interaction,” I mean actually sitting down and T-A-L-K-I-N-G and for more than a few minutes- and I also mean beyond, “What up, dawg?”, “Shit, nothing.”, “Coo, coo.”

I will be the first to admit I am more apt to text at times than call, but when it comes down to it certain things need to be discussed between people. For example, the other day I heard a story about a girl that was proposed to via text. Really? REALLY? So, you love your girlfriend SO much and want to spend the rest of your life with her, but you can’t actually propose to her in person? Are you really that busy? I would hope not. Another example is the infamous Sex in the City episode when Carrie is dumped by a Post-It- wouldn’t you prefer some closure as the dumper? What if that Post It glue lost some stickness and blew away- at the very least, are you willing to take that long shot risk?

Maybe those two examples are a little extreme, but let’s think of something more generic. Let’s make this really elementary for added effect too (seeing as this is the maturity level of adults that actually do these things).  Amy is upset her boyfriend as of third period (and now it is fourth) did not notice her tweets about needing a hug. Meanwhile, Sam is trying to take a math test and he is upset Amy never texted him back- too bad Amy left her phone at home. When the two run into each during passing period and nothing is mentioned about the text or tweet they give each other the cold shoulder. Both presume the other is a jerk and not worth their time and by sixth period they are officially over.

That scenario may be extreme on the other end of the spectrum, but I hope it at least gets my basic point across in the most simplistic way. We have become so used to broadcasting our lives through tweets, statuses, mass texts, etc., that we forget sometimes it is best for a one on one discussion. You can never assume anything, because, chances are, somebody else is thinking along the same lines as you.

There is a couple I know married for over 20 years and any spat I see them have deals with a communication gap. Instead of immediately discussing if one feels wronged or hurt about something they let it brew and it turns into a passive aggressive battle. Had one just said, “Hey, I don’t feel right about ____, can we change something to resolve this?” the petty arguments to follow would most likely be non-existent. The same goes for friends too. Talk to your friend if you feel there is a problem or if you are worried about them- it’s a little thing called conflict-resolution, really, you should try it. Of course it is easy to problem solve by pushing the complications aside, but at the end of the day it is best to solve your problems. They will still be there if you just run away- trust me.

I’m not blaming this entirely on technology’s influence on communication, but it definitely adds more opportunity for people to vent and attempt to problem solve with strangers online. Can these strangers online really tell you how to live your life? Can you really take a four question quiz to determine your entire life path? No and no.

My advice to you- just sit and talk! If you have a problem with your sibling- discuss. If you have a problem with a co-worker- discuss. If you have a problem with your spouse – discuss. There is no point in being bitter and miserable.  We won’t always agree with each other, but you can at least compromise. Don’t forget, we are all human and we all make mistakes- nobody is perfect and therefore NOTHING in life will be perfect. At the very least when you have your chat you will feel the weight of whatever burden lifted from you. People may not agree with everything you have to say, but they will understand it is how you feel and they will appreciate your openness. Sure, some people are more sensitive than others, but most likely you will be able to look back and realize how petty the issue at hand was.

Here is some inspiration to take with you:

“If we are strong, our strength will speak for itself. If we are weak, words will be of no help,” JFK

“Electric communication will never be a substitute for the face of someone who with their soul encourages another person to be brave and true,” Charles Dickens

“Men and women belong to different species and communications between them is still in its infancy,” Bill Cosby


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